Everyone loves differently; however, the common denominator is love. We cherish the moments that take out breath away. We cherish the smiles and the laughter that we shared throughout the day.
Our loved ones are dear to our hearts, and there are moments we wait in anticipation of seeing them again because of the time that elapsed while we were apart.
Through the lens of life, we see how much we genuinely care for our loved ones and want to leave a legacy behind. So when we’re no longer here, the footprints of our act of love will stand the test of time.
I have failed to lose all the weight I intended to lose at my last attempt. So, I am going back to the drawing board. It has been an emotional journey to lose weight and manage all the losses I have experienced.
Not to mention several near-death events my wife has experienced in the past year. However, my wife is a strong-willed woman and will do anything for her family. With what she has endured, there is no doubt the good Lord has her around for a reason.
We spend a great deal going to and from the hospital every week for one reason or another. I know it’s very taxing on my wife’s body, mind, and spirit. I want to be there for her so much; I believe I forgot about myself. I have gained weight eating all the wrong things and letting my healthy way fall by the wayside.
I weighed in today at a WHOPPING 289LBS. Yes!!! That is insane! I own this gross failure to take care of myself. I cannot blame it on circumstances. I made the conscious decision to eat cookies, cakes, and a ton of fried chicken. I was often eating one meal or stress eating to a degree where I could not move.
From the picture on the left, you can see that I have regained my weight back. It’s ok because I am down but not out. But, you know, I need to make some adjustments for lasting results.
I have to admit that a lot is going on in the mental realm that requires assessment and adjusting. Today is day one of my new beginning. I will log the good, bad, and ugly: no fluff here, only some good honest truth.
The Second Day Back On The Treadmill
I did not want to get on the treadmill today. I came home. I was tired and hungry. The first thing I did when I got home was change into workout clothes. Then I ate dinner and waited fifteen minutes and started walking slowly on the treadmill and gradually increased the speed.
Final steps = 7,054.
Final Distance 2.21 miles.
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Have you ever gotten the feeling you fell short for something? You intricately missed the mark. I have. I feel I have fallen from grace with my sacred duties. You are probably wondering what I mean, or better yet, where am I going with this.
Let me start from the very beginning. As far back as I can remember, I never believed in God. Being a non-believer blinded me to the reality of faith and the power of believing in something other than what I can physically see. For years I have witnessed my grandmother going to church and reading the bible. I could remember it as if it were yesterday. She would get up early in the morning when it was quiet and read verses for hours. She would do the same at night before she retired to bed.
I thought she was wasting her time. How ignorant I was. Years went by, and I went on with life in a cloud of disbelief. Reading books but never acquiring knowledge. I could see through my eyes but never had true sight. I could hear what was said but never had an understanding. My unbelief clouded my senses and dulled my judgment. Blinded by disbelief went on for years. I could remember hearing it as yesterday; my grandmother would say, I will pray for you.
So what changed? As I traveled my journey on the road to Damascus and saw the light of understanding. I understood what my grandmother tried to impart to me with clarity. For once in my life, I understood her reasons for seeking forgiveness, salvation through prayer and reading the scriptures.
The Power Of Belief
However, I believed I didn’t understand the full scope of what I honestly thought. Reading the bible was a great help. However, there still was one thing missing, and that was belief. It is strange we can get behind the wheel of a car and believe in our skill not to get into an accident. However, we cannot believe in something we have never seen or the people we know have never seen before. Belief is simple as flipping the light switch on or off. You can choose to believe, or you can choose not to accept. Sure, you can get technical about the facts of a particular thing. However, in the end, the burden of proof rests on what you choose to believe.
When I was younger, I participated and heard many debates about whether or not to believe in ancient writings. I have since discontinued debating what I don’t fully understand to be the complete will of God. Therefore, I will leave the secret thoughts of others alone and seek only the divine prompting for my own life in the hopes I can live the rest of my life as the lost sheep now found. I believe in the power of belief in the things I cannot see held in the power of faith.
I want you to imagine for a moment; you have just been giving the worse news imaginable—the death of a loved one. Emotions rush through you like a dam that just lost its strength. Thoughts raced through your mind like an F5 tornado. Suddenly, you miss them more now than ever before because you know that you will no longer physically see, hear, or feel them without a shadow of a doubt.
If arrangements fall on your shoulders, you will not have to put grieving and your emotions from the surface so you can take care of arrangements.
To make matters worse, your loved one did not have life insurance. So you now have an added financial burden figuring out payment for arrangements.
I have seen many situations that have left families in ruins financially and emotionally. However, this does not have to be the case. Will it the case for you?
Take the time and find a good Licensed Life Insurance Agent that can be there locally for you and your family. Whatever you do, please do it now!
Can you feel it? It’s Friday, and the weekend is here. Do you remember when you were in grade school or, better yet, when you were in high school on Friday? The anticipation of three o’clock was running high, and you could not wait for that final bell to ring. All the smiling faces at that final bell were mind-blowing in hindsight. If you were being bused, running to get a good seat was the plan, and if you were walking home, it was like an adventure filled with laughter, excitement, and fun.
Some of my fondest memories were in the school on Crotona Park Avenue in the Bronx where I grew up. Granted, as a kid, I got sick with asthma a great deal in the winter months and missed weeks at a time. However, I can still remember the walks home with so many of my friends.
I recently asked myself where is my anticipation level now. Back then, it was extremely high because I couldn’t wait to get home, eat and run back outside to be with my friends. I can’t remember the last time I waited with anticipation and excitement for something. I thought to myself the other day. What am I missing in my life? How can I get that level of anticipation, excitement, and fun back in my life?
I remember I would spend hours and sometimes days in one room writing poetry and had to be told days past, and I didn’t even know it. It was like I was suspended in time, and it slowed down for me to create my masterpiece.
I spent hours drawing different faces of cartoon characters, and everyone was amazed at what I created. I would spend hours working out or playing basketball for six to seven hours a day. I could not wait to get on the court and try new and amazing moves with my friends. Playing in front of crowds and hearing them react with amazement and absolute awe from moves made by all of us who put on a show for our loyal spectators.
Time For A Change
I realized the other day it is time for a change. It is time to explore new opportunities that will bring a level of excitement back into my life, even in these timorous and uncertain times. I believe there is a level in life for an individual to find joy with oneself in the things they do that do not rely on external happenings. What new things have you tried lately that produced unexpected excitement and fulfillment for you?
Before the pandemic hit in March 2020, I was suffering from the loss of several family members and the near death experience of my wife. Then the pandemic hit, I felt as though I was suffocating and really did not understand what was happening to me. Trying to be positive for my wife who was implanted with a Ventricular Device after her third heart attack.
I completely turned numb to my situation and feelings. I started binge eating and ballooned back up to 292lbs. The day I realized I could no longer fit my clothes or walk a short distance without being completely winded. I knew it was time to get back to the living and start taking care of myself. I must make the change if I were to be there for my wife and kids.
I knew what would work to lose weight, however, it was the implementation that was difficult. In other words, taking the first step so I can take the second. This has always been a journey for me. I embark on gaining momentum and then life hits and I lose steam and stop. I don’t start diets, I change habits which work for periods of time. However, I now realize changing habits is great to change, but for lasting results I have to change my mindset as well.
So, how do I do that? I started updating my library and pay attention to what I mentally intake, and I slowly start taking control of my thoughts. I slowly alter what I eat. Why slowly? I say slowly because it is the habit I am changing as well as the mindset. I understand making the decision to this is instant. Making the actual change takes time, persistence, dedication, and desire. If you persist you would see your vision, dreams, and aspirations materialize.
Small changes Over Time Can Have A Big Impact Over Time
Small changes over time can make a big difference and impact to what you are trying to achieve. Every morning I would have two cups of coffee and don’t eat anything until afternoon. Which was a great way for go into starvation mode and store fat. My small change Example; I eat two eggs with spinach and one cup of coffee followed by a cup of tea. A funny thing happened. I found myself dropping the coffee and now have a bottle of water and a cup of tea. After two weeks of doing this combine with other small changes in what I eat I notice weight loss. Small changes equals big results.
Here are some ideas of small habits you can alter that will greatly impact you in the future in more ways than one.
Go for a walk for fifteen minutes instead of just flopping down in front of the television or computer. Over time you can increase your walk time to thirty minutes if you want. Remember the idea here is small until you can increase or make a small difference that will lead to better or healthier small habits that can possibly become big changes in your health and life.
How can walking make a big impact? Walking has been known for improving you mood. It has also been linked to helping you maintain your weight, including being responsible for losing a few pounds. Not to mention, how brisk walking can help to improve your balance.
Substitute bad sugar for good sugar. I know it’s crazy but it works. What is the difference you ask? Bad sugar is found in processed food, soda, sugar in you coffee, or added sugar you may add in sauce for your meals. Cereals, bread, and pastries, just to name a few.
Read ten pages per day. Over time you will increase your vocabulary, and increase your knowledge. Reading can be a great stress reliever. Reading allows you to escape and take a journey into a wonderful creative minds of many creative people. Reading ten pages a day can help you become a better writer as well. Small habit changes can yield big results.
Power Learn for fifteen minutes a day. Have you ever wanted to learn something new but felt you just did not have the time? Take fifteen minutes a day to explore new concepts and ideas via reading or video. Several things over time will happen. Your curiosity will grow prompting you to find time to continue to learn more about that subject, trade, idea or concept. Depending what you learn can make you more valuable in the market place. There by increasing your confidence and financial status. Increasing your rate of pay and or better position with a new title can provide you with new avenues that will allow you to help others do the same. Always remember, learning new information is great. However, if the new information you acquire is not acted upon it’s just that, new information for entertainment purposes. You must put the new information, concepts, and ideas into action for them to work for you in your life.
Change Your Habits. Take a look at your personal life. I am sure you heard this before and may have perform it as well. Take a piece of paper and write down some of your bad habits you would like to change. Be brutally honest with yourself. Just writing down what could be improved upon is one of the first steps to taking ownership and responsibility and making it real. Be clear and concise. You want to tackle this list with small changes at first. Write out what needs to be changed and create a clear road-map of how those changes will take place. Then take ACTION!
There are a host of habits you can make small changes to that can have an big impact. Smoking for one, drinking, and drugs are all habits I have personally conquered by the grace of God with no intervention. I can attest by making a decision to take action you can change your life completely around. I have been clean for over thirty years. I know and have experienced the adverse effects these types of bad habits can have on you and love ones.
Taking action by changing small things in your life can create a better future for you and those who you love and adore in your life. More importantly, you become a better person in society. Creating an impact of light that will shine and emanate with the capacity to effect others in a positive way.
The journey to living in a healthier way has been a difficult one for me. However, the journey has been an engaging one with ups and down while trying improve my life through underlying health issues.
I believe if you truly go after that which you desire with persistency, determination, and steadfast tenacity. You will reach that point of achievement for which you have worked so hard to attain. Having said that, I am over joyed to show some of my recent results as I continue to embark on my one-hundred five pounds fat burning journey.
When I fist decided I needed to do something about my weight I weighed in at 305lbs. I never thought I would start logging it. However, the pictures are like a thousand words.
I am constantly learning about my own limits and the constant changes to my body as I am slowly approaching age sixty in a couple of years. Desire to lose weight, working out, and watching what I eat is not the only thing I must be aware of. I must also pay close attention to the changes in my body and the new limits that are set by aging.
Our mind does not age as fast as our bodies. When it comes to age, our minds can be deceiving, which most of the time can be a very good thing. We all heard the old saying, “Age is just a number.” When it comes to the mind it’s true. However, the vessel that houses the mind says something different.
Preparing for old age while living in the present can be provide us with a wakeup call. As our bodies start to deteriorate our mind appears not to age at all. Of course, that is how I feel at least. I notice the older that I get, my mind says I am able to do something until the limitations of my body counter acts with a severe shot of reality to my mind halts or slow down my progress.
The older I get, the more I feel I am running out of time. I know I cannot be the only one who feels this way and can only imagine there are so many people who feel this way as well. When we are young we feel invincible, but when we are in our middle age we start to shift our perspective with an emphasis on living longer and having an income to provide us to live comfortable in our golden years.
We also start to take more stock in our health, what we eat, what we put in our bodies, and how simple things that we do or normally take for granted becomes a little challenging to do as we age. Then we notice things are changing for us. Our vessels are aging and for some of us, our past of doing harmful things to our bodies come back to haunt us, as we pay the price of bad decisions and wished we had listen to those around us who warned us we should stop doing was it was that was harmful and may cause adverse effects on our bodies in the future.
It’s like playing catch-up, but the damage is already done. We cannot change the past, but we can control we do for the future to mitigate the deteriorating effects of aging with a less stressful life that includes a healthier outlook on the rest of our life. In order to do this, we must maintain a good balance in our life. Something I am still working on myself.
Balance is easily said and a little more difficult to do. I admire those who can seemly do this with out any thought at all. It comes so natural for them. They are surrounded by family who love them, friends who admire and adore them. They have good health, a healthy financial life, good careers and hobbies, a spiritual balance of belief, and a great sense of who they are, which helps them live a fulfilling long life.
At the end, that’s what it’s all about. Having a sense of gratitude and a sense of establishment having contributed to society as well as enriching the lives that we encounter. Servicing our ultimate purpose for being here as we shared our god giving talents, gifts, compassion, and love. So that as we lived, we may leave knowing we accomplished what we set out to accomplish with no regrets.
Today while at the gym a thought occurred to me as I was pounding away in repetition doing crunches. I knew I needed to work on my overall package, (my entire body) and have been neglecting my midsection for some time. It’s been over a week since I have done any crunches. Looking down at my mid-section I would consider, how on earth did I missed that? We do reps to break the muscle down to failure and build it back up stronger than before. What I am looking to do here is firm up my mid-section and have it nice and tight, something I can be proud of when I look in the mirror. In order to achieve the look I am after I would have to do a variety of exercises that isolates the different muscle groups that make up the mid-section area including the oblique’s muscle group.
Imagine if we were to workout in areas of our life. What I mean is; you find one area you want to improve upon and find a series of proven strategies you know that if you do them you would create the outcome you were after. One rep at a time. One successful activity after another consistently over time would ensure your success of the outcome you desire. It’s like building a muscle in the body. You have constantly work that muscle out and do rep after rep to make it bigger and stronger. It’s the same thing with our lives.
If we want something to change, we have to change. If you desire a bigger bank account you may need to re-educate yourself one book after another, and perhaps change your philosophy as well. We live in the information age which is simply a period of time of accumulative information to measure. One minute after another and one piece of informative advice after another over time, one rep after another, do see my point?
This is colossal information and yes, when you apply the proven strategies to develop what it is that you are trying to achieve it comes with a price. So what are you willing to sacrifice? What are you willing to let go of? What habits are you willing to change? It all boils down to this! HOW BAD DO YOU WANT IT?
In the gym they have mirrors where you can look at yourself working, to make sure you are using the correct form and or simply enjoy being vain if that’s your thing. But the mirror can also serve as pivotal focus point when one is about to give up. When you come to the point and say to yourself why am I killing myself? It’s not going to happen I am never going to lose all this weight and self-doubt starts to overwhelm you.
Then you look up at the mirror and suddenly you realize this is why you are here at the gym, to stop looking the way you look. To stop feeling the way you feel about yourself at that moment of despair and doubt. So you begin to move with a new sense of determination, with a new attitude and start to feed your mind with one positive thought after another on why you need to stick with this workout and NOT GIVE IN OR GIVE UP. YOUR LIFE DEPENDS ON YOU!
I will be looking at maximizing my workout time to burn as many calories in a workout as I possibly can. Then I will start watching what I eat and to be sure to consume 2600 calories a day per my friend who is a nutritionist and advised me to do.
The reason for the change is I noticed my heart is in the right lane but I lack the ability to effective create the desire change I so desperately seek. I have already started this regiment and have notice some changes just within the several days I have been trying this.
You know, that got me thinking. Sometimes it’s good to acquire or enlist the help of someone who is very successful at what you are trying to achieve. If I can do this about with health, I can certainly do this spiritually, financially, and academically. This is a great way to achieve faster results and learn how to avoid the pitfalls they have encountered. In essence, we can learn from other people’s success, failures and forge our own success with all of our hard work.
I guess we must be certain of what we want out of life to forge a clear and laser focused path to our desire results. Are you sure you are on the correct path or are you doing what you think is expected of you?
I talk a lot about passion because so many people are not doing what they are truly passionate about. I for one can attest to this because I am passionate about writing, encouraging, motivating others through my writings. That is the reason I write here every day.
Enough about me.
Start asking yourself life changing questions. Am I living in the house I imagined? Have I travels to all the destinations I wanted to? Does my life reflect my imagination? Have I lived up to my own expectations, or can I achieve more out of life? If not, WHY?
(Personal note, these are questions I have asked myself just over six months ago. I feel my life changing for the better for having asked and responded.)
Don’t answer these questions here but write your answers on a piece of paper.
1. What am I most passionate about?
2. Am I living my passion with purpose?
3. Do you have a bucket list? If not, why?
4. What are my strengths?
5. What are my weaknesses?
This is what I would like to achieve in the next year __________________. Why?
This is what I would like to achieve in the next 3 Years ____________________. Why?
What is stopping me from reaching my current goal?
What can I do to change my outcome?
As always I want to thank you for reading my post. I hope you challenge yourself to answer these questions. For now have a spectacular day!